Practically nothing worth reading,but you should!

I may not be the best girl to speak for all girls,but I do know how most girls think 95% of the time,relatively normal girls that is.

Just when you think you might understand us,we change our minds. We push away whats good for us,and hang on to what we should let go of. We ramble about complete nonsense and then when its time to talk about what really matters we shut you out.

Okay,So maybe thats more me than 'all girls' but its a good starting point,Id say. A Friend of mine is having some girl issues,and ive been trying to help him get inside the girls head lately. Honestly,Im not really the best judge of character nowadays..Actually,I pretty much suck. But of course,bc im a wonderful,amazing, and completely un-selfish friend,I tried my hardest to find some sort of explanation for this girls odd behavior (besides the fact that she just might be a slightly insane).

Heres a little run down. My friend (We'll call him Adam)is probably the most endearing,sensitive,cute,funny,smart,sarcastic,and just flat out best guy you'll ever encounter in your life. He's like a real life prince charming. ('Adam' you can thank me for that later buddy! lol) He wears his heart on his sleeve,hes devoted to what he wants in life,and in a girl. When he's with someone,its all about her. He doesnt like to hurt people,and in the time that ive known him ive come to realize hes the worst liar in the world bc its just not part of who he is. So whats the problem?

These girls either dont see ^^^ those things I just mentioned.. OR they're brain dead. From what ive been told,Adam gets the typical "Your too perfect,im scared...i dont wanna get hurt..too good to be true..yada yada yada" Cop out that girls give when they KNOW they have something good in front of them,but dont want it. Ehh maybe thats a little insensitive of me to say,but whatever..Its the truth. BUT in this case,I think said girl (We'll call her Eve) is just stupid. BC A) From txt messages ive seen,she DOES know what she has right in front of her and she DOES want it. Girls dont talk the way that girl does,unless they really like the guy. JMO! and B)Shes doing nothing but confusing this guy,he doesnt know what to think anymore..

EVE if you are reading this right now,STOP LYING TO YOURSELF,you know you like him..you know hes amazing.. and you know your not gonna find anyone better than him in a million years. So take the chance you've been given and stop running from your real life prince charming. Seriously,WHO DOES THAT?

Platonic Relationships,Can they be done?

I've argued this topic countless times,with myself as well as others only to find that in the end the one question we've all wondered,has yet to be completely answered.. Honestly,That is. So heres what ive come up with in my own head,its a little confusing and slightly fucked up to think about really..but with all that being said,I honestly believe that Platonic relationships can work. Not always of course,but if both people are in it for the right reasons it can definitely be done without all the sad heartbreak we see in movies,and heres why.

First of all,to understand the whole concept you have to know.. What Exactly is a Platonic Relationship? My theory is this: Though a little different from Plato’s original concept of love,in modern times the terms “platonic love” and “platonic relationship” have come to mean a relationship between individuals of the opposite sex marked by the absence of romance or sex. (Okay,so i didnt technically come up with that completely on my own..sue me!) So to put it simply,a platonic relationship is a close friendship between a man and woman. Sounds simple enough right? Women and Men have had tons of successful friendships in the past. Probably more than I could name.. (Actually I googled and got nothing! *sigh* I still stick by what I know..)Anyways,So your probably sitting there reading this thinking, "She's crazy,Men and Women cannot be JUST friends without SOME sort of romantic connection from one end or the other".. Well I think your full of shit.

So the 2nd question would be, Why Should There Be a Problem? I *personally* understand how there could definitely be a problem. Like maybe one person feels stongly for the other and the other just doesnt get it,or maybe he/she doent even know about these feelings. This can OBVIOUSLY cause a problem in the relationship. All things aside though,I believe we can control our feelings. (Okay maybe not completely,but its not entirely impossible either..just keep reading,sheesh!) I honestly think that its all in our heads,we make ourselves fall (or not fall) in love with someone. Therefore,You have this friend,and(s)he's EVERYTHING you ever wanted for yourself but rather than falling completely head over heels for this person who is *probably* too good to be true,you become friends. As this frienship developes,you realize(s)he understands you the way you wish everyone else could. The conversation is easy,and the time you spend together is pretty effortless. It just is what it is,and rather than trying to force something that could (and more than likely WOULD) ruin this amazing once in a lifetime friendship,you decide that having this person in your life as a friend and someone who will always be there for you,is SO MUCH more rewarding than putting the stress of an actual 'relationship' on both of you. WHY NOT have all the wonderful benefits of a GOOD boyfriend/girlfriend without the actual strings and attachment and heartbreak. Im not talking 'friends with benefits' either. Im talking about an actual honest to god frienship. Someone you can tell anything and everything to,someone who GETS you and can give you advice on guys/girls without getting jealous. Someone who truly wants nothing but the best for you,without all the awkward booty call bullshit that takes away from what makes it special. You may think im insane,and dont know what the hell im talking about. And while I know im no expert on the matter,I do know that im experiencing this first hand.

So,my thoughts on the topic are completely my own opinion. Others believe the reason platonic friendships can be difficult is genetics.For a good portion of us,attraction to the opposite sex is genetically “hardwired” into our psyche.There’s no way to avoid it. We find the physical form of the opposite sex attractive,the opposite sex exudes pheromones that we find attractive, even something as simple of the timbre of the voice of a member of the opposite can trigger a romantic response in us.Add to that the fact that nothing makes a romantic relationship more successful then when the people involved are “friends first”, and it’s easy to see why platonic relationships can be difficult to keep strictly platonic.

I call BS. We are NOT hardwired to 'fall in love' with every damn person we see. I think its perfectly possible to be attracted to someone physically,emotionally and even whatever other way and still maintain an honest friendship.Maybe,Im wrong. Who knows?!

Next Question: Are They Possible? Ive given my thoughts on this already,but i figured id share a little something I found online about this particular aspect of the topic. George Washington and Betsy Ross where close platonic friends as well as other historical figures. But many platonic relationships do not work well. When romantic feelings spring up in both parties,then the friendship turns into a romantic relationship and everyone is happy.But a good portion of the time only one of the friends becomes attracted to the other, and then the platonic relationship is in trouble. <---- WDYT?

Basically what im trying to get at here,Is that every friendship/relationship is different. I'm not telling you to run out and try to find someone of the opposite sex to be besties with or anything. It has to happen completely on its own. Just one of those 'right person right time' kinda things. I sort of sound like im 'anti-love' or something,but that couldnt be farther from the truth. Im all for getting married someday,and who doesnt wanna marry their best friend? It's like a movie,right? Everyone wants that fairytale happy ending.. and few ever get that in real life.

So in conclusion,can platonic relationships work? Yes && No. (Our question remains unanswered)Romantic feelings between the sexes don't always exist,leaving room for a very fulfilling and lasting friendship. Its all about good judgement,and being 100% open and honest. That,or you can make your decision and keep your damn mouth shut and enjoy the ride! :)

PS If your a guy,and you were able to read all of this AND not get lost on the way.. Call me! ;)

Best Blog Ive Never Written. ;)

Ehh Im starting this new blog bc I decided to make my current blog private for a cpl of reasons.

This blog will maninly consist of my random thoughts throughout the day. You can probably expect more than one entry a day,and more than likely short random thoughts such as song lyrics,quotes,stories,anything that I want to document and share with everyone.

I'd like to mention anyone reading this (which could very well be ANYONE bc im going to post the link on my myspace/facebook and where ever else I think of to exploit myself in the most non-whore(ish) way ever) is my new best friend. There will be no rules,no specific thought process,and definitely no spell check. I'm going to use words ive clearly made up,im not going to use correct punctuation and I more than likely will not make sense half the time. So if you continue to read,then you are one dedicated friend and i love you for that alone. :)

Feel free to leave me comments. I throughly enjoy feed back almost more than anything else.. jk thats a lie,I like facebook messages too.

However,Please do not give me topic suggestions unless your serious bc I will more than likely take it into consideration. While I absolutely love suggestion,if you do NOT really want to read about the long agonizing process of potty training a 2yr old then I highly recommend you do not suggest it as a blog topic. An EX friend of mine once suggested I blog about penis' (what is the PLURAL FOR PENIS?! PENISI? PENISES? PENIS'S PENISESESES? rawr) and most definitely wrote a detailed blog all about Peniseseses. Its true,Ill share it here sometime. Remind me.

Now that ive ranbled and given you a good idea of what NOT to expect from this blog,I hope you all enjoy reading the best blog ive never written. :)